After the death of an Eleven-year-old: What is bullying and how can I protect my child against it?

Time, Hobbies, time, appearance, or clothing, times photos in social networks or invented rumors: children and young people don’t need serious reasons to bullying by classmates. What often begins as a fun, can take on extreme proportions, and the victim permanently affect. In the case of an eleven-year-old girl who committed suicide allegedly because of bullying at his Berlin elementary school suicide, is currently causing a great consternation. What are signs of bullying, and how parents can help? An Overview.

Many of those Affected go suddenly, just still extremely reluctant to the school and complain, for example, about abdominal pain. They are also suffering from sleep disturbances, headaches, loss of appetite or other physical complaints. Their school performance, according to lasse, the ability to concentrate drops or your interests change. Dejection, lack of self-confidence and loss of enjoyment of life, feelings of inferiority can be further alarm signals.

It is accompanied by physical bullying, injuries, broken items and pieces of clothing be a clue. Not infrequently block the children who were the victims of bullying, questions and discussions, or the topic of play.

What can parents do?

Parents should be alert to the possible signs and in a conversation offering support. The measures, for example, if the school management or a teacher to be contacted, should always be with the child, previously discussed. Experts advise also to store evidence, such as pictures, offensive E-Mails and SMS as well as corresponding Screenshots and to also collect information such as your name or nickname (nickname) of the user responsible.

The Parties are known, parents should ask them to delete the content, advises “Look”. This is not voluntary, parents can request this from the operator whose contact details you will find on the help section, the legal notice or the terms and conditions of use. In the case of serious violations, parents can take legal steps and the responsible for the police.

How should teachers respond?

In any case, quick Action is needed. The victim and the perpetrator should be consulted. Then should together find a solution or redress to be agreed, and advises the police. The parents should be involved. It is important to discuss the Problem in the school and not to mention dead, and as the whole class. Important: teachers should only be viewed with the permission of the parents the contents of a students cell phones, you may collect the cell phone.

How to protect my child from bullying?

A strong self-awareness is the best protection against bullying. The website “Strong Kids” is called here, among other things, an upright posture, and discussions, in order to strengthen the communicative skills of the child. Parents should teach your child to be proud of yourself, but not at every little thing to praise. Too much praise make a child dependent on recognition and more vulnerable to verbal attacks. To just home, in familiar surroundings, to get a child the ability to set your own clear boundaries. So it learns that it does not have to be always liked everything and can handle the school with certain situations better.

Here you get help

Some organizations have been working for years with bullying and its effects. On these pages you can learn more and get help, if your child is being bullied.


Strong Kids

Click safe

Advisory body to the police

You have suicidal thoughts? Help the phone offers pastoral care. It is anonymous, free-of-charge and round-the-clock 0 800 / 111 0 111 and 0 800 / 111 0 222 accessible. A consultation via E-Mail. A list of Federal-aid stations can be found on the page of the German society for suicide prevention.